" My presence is often unexpected and considered offensive, or, I can be ignored entirely."

That makes me sad, and probably makes your husband sad, too. I think you're brilliant.

I've written fairly extensively on the tapes white folks grow up with — not in defense of the behavior but in regard to how we whites have an absolute obligation to treat it for the toxic mental illness that it is derived from.

I won't ever stop writing and talking about it. It's just sad that here we are in the 21st century and it's still necessary.