I was young, too, once. Sometimes angry about a break up, or worse, when a woman didn't show interest in me. Especially because I was broke a lot in my youth, it was pretty easy to pin it all on that.

Like all human endeavor, it's a bit more complex.

(not) Fun fact: Not one woman I've known on an intimate level, platonically or otherwise, has avoided the wrath of a man's abuse. That's always going to be the elephant in your room, whether you like it or not. Almost all women have dealtt with physical or emotional abuse. Does that make most men abusers? Statisticss don't shine a very positive light on the answer.

Women have the right to deal with this fact however they please. If it means they want gold, they should be able to have gold. If they want something else, they have that right, too.

While I get the angst, I can't think of one break up I've had that I couldn't have prevented by just being a better partner. This is true whether I was poor or otherwise. My empathy is not enough, but that's a knock on me, not the breakup partners. We also don't get to pat ourselves on the back for not being abusive emotionally or physically. That's not a feather in our cap. We have much more to give than that, I hope. Women shouldn't have to say to their friends, "well, at least he doesn't hit me or act like a dick 24/7." But so many times they do. So next time you or a friend acts like a dick towards a woman, call yourselves out on it.

Self-introspection will probably ease many of your relationship woes. Then, one day you may meet someone who truly loves you for who you are, and the woes will subside until one of you dies or some other terrible thing happens, because that, too, is part of life.